HAPPYNESS

Happiness

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What does it mean to be happy?

Odo o!

Welcome to another bunch of random scribbling where you just might learn a lesson or two.

I would like to say recently this question has been popping up in my mind frequently. At the same time, it is not so recent. I have always questioned what happiness is. I'm sure you might have done the same at some point too.

According to my offline Dictionary, happiness is the emotions you feel when you are in a state of well being.  This seems so simple and straight to the point. But then, is anything ever so straight to the point? Especially when it is an emotion?

It brings this question to mind which really scares me. Can you be happy and not recognize it as happiness? Just like how people can be depressed and not know it?

They are all food for thoughts. The main question is To what extent are humans willing to go in the pursuit of happiness. Quite a number of people, experts in particular have mentioned that emotions are fickle. To this I agree. Another interesting thing about emotions is that as fickle as they are, they are usually very strong and if not managed properly, can lead a person to making hasty decisions.

As always, I’d use myself as an example. Unfortunately, I won’t be very precise in my examples because I simply can’t remember exact dates and times for these events.

So, there was a time where if I got angry at a situation or someone whom I can’t talk back to(e.g my mum), I would just freshen up and leave the house.

At that time i would not have any destination, I would just keep walking and walking till I got tired or the anger I was feeling subsided. Now you might think that that was a good way to channel my negative energy and all that.

In a way it was. In other ways it wasn’t. Take for instance, in my fit of anger, I never remembered to carry money or water or even the proper shoes for a long walk. I always ended up walking for a bit of a long time. And get this, I’m walking as angry as I’m feeling😂 so you can imagine the energy I’d be burning while stomping and throwing a fit.😂

Point is I would walk and eventually realize that I have gotten too far from my home. Because I didn’t carry money, I have to walk all the way back. Trust me that is not a nice feeling😭 I have to walk back alone and worse without the company of my anger and my thoughts. By the time I reach my house, I am totally and utterly exhausted. Most times I feel remorse and hate myself for walking out in the first instance.

Pause.

When I started this piece, I had no idea what I really wanted to write about. All I knew was that I wanted to write about emotions and happiness was the first emotion that came to mind. Off course I had to read up some stuff on emotional wellness and all of that. So yeah now I know what direction I’m headed.

BACK TO MY STORY

Now, that is just an example, my inability to control and manage that very strong emotion always pushed me to making the rash decision of going out without any means of finding my way back quickly and swiftly. Imagine if the situation was different and more grave? I’ll tell you another story

There was this “man” that I had interest in. I had not yet communicated my feelings to him so basically he was just my friend. So one time we had an argument and it was serious. It was so bad, I was so hurt and sad and all of that. In the throes of my painful passion😂 I blocked him everywhere and I mean everywhere. For some reason I wasn’t satisfied with that. I went ahead to delete his contact. Get this, I did not have him on any other social media platform except from WhatsApp.

I went ahead to delete his contact and all our chats and conversations. I deleted everything and regretted it. The regret wasn’t immediate though but as soon as I had come down from the high of my sadness, the regret kicked in.

I hope that in some way you are beginning to see where I’m headed with this piece. So far I’ve been talking about negative emotions. Let’s move on to positive emotions as well.

HAPPINESS

What a beautiful and wonderful feeling, isn’t it? Just like anger, sadness, dejection and all those negative emotions, you can regret making hasty decisions in the high of happiness.

The thing about happiness is that in its strongest form, it feels euphoric and you feel on top of the world. The feeling you get from being high off of a hard drug or something of that sort. You feel untouchable. When it gets worse, it just might become intoxicating. I’ll tell you another story.

30th May, 2023 (17:21)

Hi! It’s 1st June, 2023 (17:00)

I’m currently at work and I have a few minutes to myself which I’ll use judiciously here. Anyway, I had a very interesting story to tell you yesterday but my phone ran into some issues which have been temporarily solved. I may or may not continue that story after this.

Soooooooo, yesterday some people wanted to use my head😂 if you are a Nigerian, you would understand immediately. For my readers that are not Nigerians, it means that they wanted to scam me😂😂

Long story cut short, THEY GOT THE WRONG PERSON 😂😂

My head cannot be used. I’ll go back to talking about Emotions later. Maybe in the next blog ‘cause this one is already getting longer and longer and I don’t want to tire you.

BACK TO MY STORY

I entered a cab going home from work by like 18:10. About that time sha. I met two other men in the cab plus the driver making three men. I’ll try my best not to elongate the story.

On getting to the next bus stop which one of them men at the back was supposed to come down, he mentioned to the driver that he has to pick up his bag in the boot. This is the conversation that ensued

passenger 1: Driver please I’ll come down here and I want to pick up my bag in the boot

Driver: so na you get that bag? When I been ask who get am you no say anything. Oya wetin Dey inside the bag?

Passenger 1: shoes and clothes dey inside the bag

Driver: na lie you lie, I don check the bag and mail money dey inside. Where did you get such money from, you this small boy

Passenger 1: Oya driver make I tell the truth. I came from Kaduna and I worked for my oga for five years instead of seven years because he died. He was supposed to settle me after seven years of work but he died in Saudi Arabia.  So we the workers were taking thijngs from his house. I did not take too much and when I saw his room I saw bags of money and I just took one bag.

Passenger 2: Oya how much Dey the bag?

Passenger 1: na 1 million dollars sir

😂😂😂can you imagine?  $1m inside a bag in Bodija Ibadan carried by a wretched man. Anyway, read on

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You know how things don’t turn out as you want them too. Well, that happened to me. The energy for the story has gone. I don’t even know what took my attention yesterday but it happened.

So in the end, I had to come down from from the cab  for my own safety. The driver and the two men decided that we should share the money that the guy would settle is with 10k dollars each.

It was so funny anyway, he started driving towards somewhere that wasn’t my route so I just told him that he should not bother, I’ll come down.

And my people, that was how I was saved.  I mean, a lot of people have been kidnapped in that same manner or worse.

We’ve come to the end of this blog post. I'm tired😞

Friday, 1st June, 2023.

Children!!! Do not let your emotions control you. I repeat! DO NOT LET YOUR EMOTIONS CONTROL YOU! You are more than your emotions!!!!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️

Also, please and please be safe and vigilant. Pay attention to your sorroundings.

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